How to live happy couple without control or hurt the other?
You must create fear and guilt to another in order to make you believe you're happy couple?
You say you love, why force him to fulfill his desires and guilty, hurt him if he does not work?
You say you love, so why manage it, control it, do not submit to your will?
Does not it seem odd that almost everyone is trying to be happier as a couple and be sure to understand its current state?
I wonder if you ever thought about this question carefully.
Observe the world, for you are that!
During my childhood, my mother repeated to me many times, not to speak or even smile at strangers, because they are bad people and bad people speculators.
Then on my eight years, I put a question to my mother.
If foreigners are bad people, speculators and dangerous, so they also see us as well because we are in favor of them foreigners?
I spare him to count the injuries, the consequences which lived to ask this question to the mother.
You see, almost everyone believes that it is the others who create this horrible world, these conflicts, these misfortunes and these divisions. However, no one is watching their behavior in relationships, which in turn creates a problem.
And then one day, when the relationship is on the brink, then this same behavior solutions are sought to be happy.
They read books, magazines and websites. They will hear speakers, priests, gurus, psychologists, professionals, experts. They will also hear their friends and other people nearby.
But all these people, all these "solutions" are not part of it, in this world even conditioned behavior?
Perhaps they also forgot to observe and understand their behavior in relationships?
I do not know if you understand this reality observable?
When such conflicts arise in our intimate relationships?
Our education does not help to understand and see ourselves as we are, but we have become what others want us to be.
So we forget to understand our feelings, our intentions, our fears, our conditioning, our struggles and our actions, so that "what is" living the ideals of other people than "should be".
These ideals are fictional images and strive to follow the other solutions to achieve their ideals, those images. And not to understand what is true now, today.
These images become better, more, earn, accumulate a lot. He brought it to those who are well, they are the most respected, the most loved and recognized. They have the power, they are powerful!
This sets its life compared with others, because to have more, it is necessary that the other disappears less. To make you a loser. For power, there needs to be slaves subjected people.
Not true?
Their motivation is based on fear or love?
You struggle, struggle, resistance is created to achieve these images of power, and those who do not, are less than nothing!
This is what we do not teach you, that does not show. You are taught the ideal time. And those you teach are blinded by their own quest for power over you and be compared with you.
These ideals are constantly repeated to produce a typical deep, to compete for power.
This competitive research was keen to create in you, the fear of being inferior, not being, not having enough, lose, lose ... and you live your relationships, all relationships, be it.
The contest is a form of desire for power that destroys and divides people. That's why we have to do ... and not find a way to have power because power relations and division compared prevents understanding.
The energy division ratio
Compete in your partner to determine what is best, that's right, etc. You want power over the other, mistakenly believing that energy is a sign of greatness, of superiority, success, success, quality of life.
They taught him that. You will be shown this.
So you want to become a happy couple more united by the ideals of society, according to the world that promotes competition, being the best, to win, to be sure power.
Your love life is like a train track where they go in parallel in the same direction, but do not touch, without being related.
And to have power over the other, what better way to do this depends on the need of the fear of losing something essential and keep prisoner for trial for fear of feeling guilty.
You constantly think about these things, but forget to look at the way you are.
In fact, you want the power to be recognized, to be loved, because deep inside you, you know who you are. You do not know what love is.
How to choose your married life?
Couple lives happily begins with self-knowledge. And that knowledge is not something that accumulate in his memory, it is not something that is high on your ego, but an observation, attention.
This attention is the free choice of consciousness of the direction you want to give your married life.
Current education prevents freedom of choice, forcing them to adopt a form, competition, comparison. The imposed belief.
By accepting without judgment, without good or bad qualifications, so it creates in you a deep intention to understand the situation.
You come into being, new information and make a conscious choice between what is (competition and comparison of the relationship), and that "something more" in your consciousness.
Now you have the choice and not cause him to take teaching others about it.
No option, you can not choose. Without competition, you can not choose between competition and cooperation. No comparison, you can not choose between the comparison and equity.
What will dictate your decision?
In short, the option that appeals more to live in the moment.
ليست هناك تعليقات:
إرسال تعليق